Whips, ropes, and a power exchange—oh my! by Stacey Kennedy + Giveaway!
Those sexy treats are what make a BDSM story hot, right?
I have to admit that writing in the BDSM genre isn’t about the hot and steamy love scenes for me. Okay, it’s an added plus and writing those scenes always leaves me pink cheeked. Though for me, what makes a BDSM book so hot is the emotional connection between the dominant and the submissive.
It’s the level of trust that the couple has to experience to be able to do the things they do in those smokin’ hot BDSM scenes. It’s the connection of one person who is—by choice—giving up control to another to experience something they haven’t before. It’s the act of someone being pushed outside of their comfort zone and who receives an experience from that. Maybe it changes them for the better, maybe they learn something from it, or maybe the scene just rocks their socks off!
In Club Sin, that deep connection is the soul of the series. It’s what I think is important above all else in a BDSM story, because trust is the heart of a BDSM relationship. I can wholeheartedly say that any man thinking of doing any sort of BDSM on any woman, even in the lightest of manner, better have his head in a good place and know what he’s doing. If not, I’d be yelling at that submissive to run away as fast as possible.
That was the key element to writing the Club Sin series—building trust and showing how it’s earned in a BDSM relationship. Yes, of course, there are scenes of flogging and other delicious treats for our heroine, but those are simply tools to drive the scene and bring the submissive to a higher pleasure. Without that connection where the trust is evident, and the Dom is worthy of that trust, the scenes wouldn’t hold any heat.
So, for me, it’s not the tools that make the story sexy, it’s all about the Dom. Sure, the fact that a man has the knowledge how to bring a woman to higher pleasure and ensures she gets there is sizzling hot, but it’s his deeper look into her that makes me swoon. I melted—more than once—while writing CLAIMED as I watched Dmitri lose himself in Presley’s soul, as he gauged her reactions, and that she became his entire focus.
His attentiveness matched with situations to bring pure pleasure is why I love writing these stories. I didn’t write these books to have big, bossy alpha men doing whatever they wanted, and the women being used for erotic purposes. I wrote these books to show an emotional journey that I feel is beautiful. To learn to trust, to give up control, and to watch love grow from that gift.
That in the end, being together has given the couple something they didn’t have before. That giving up control to someone else doesn’t mean the heroine loses herself or her choices, but that the experience gives the heroine something more—a missing piece to her life that makes things just a little bit better. That, together, they fulfill an emotional need they both longed for, and by the end of the story they’ve come to a good place in their lives.
So, that’s how the Club Sin series started—with one simple idea of what would happen if you had a Dom whose entire focus was on the wellbeing of a submissive and if that Dom deserved to hold the control for a little while. In the process of writing CLAIMED I found out exactly what would happen…and yeah, it was HOT!
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About the Author:
Stacey Kennedy is an urban fantasy lover at heart, but she also enjoys losing herself in dark and sensual worlds. She lives in southwestern Ontario with her husband, who gave her a happily-ever-after. Together, they have two small children who can always make her smile, and who will never be allowed to read Mommy’s books. If she’s not plugging away at a new story, you’ll find her camping, curling up with the latest flick, or obsessing over Sons of Anarchy and Game of Thrones.
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